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10 Bad Attitudes of People Who Sabotage Their Goals

cartoon of man laying on couch eating snack foodIs a poor attitude keeping you from reaching your goals? If you recognize any of these traits in yourself, you might be holding yourself back from fitness or fat loss success. Take an honest look at these 10 bad attitudes, and assess if you need to make any changes.

“I Can’t”

From “I can’t do push ups!” to “I can’t eat that!”, this attitude usually comes from a place of intimidation. Don’t focus on the things you can’t do, focus on what you CAN, and make the word “can’t” forbidden. Replace “I can’t” with “I can and I will.”

“It’s Not My Fault”

This one falls anywhere from blaming spouses who won’t babysit so you can go work out to co-workers bringing donuts to work. Take responsibility for your choices and for the things that ARE in your control. Own your part in any bumps along the way, and do what you need to do to fix or change it.

“I Don’t Know What To Do”

Many blame their lack of knowledge regarding exercise and diet for not doing anything to reach their fat loss goals. In reality, you know when you’re eating low quality, high calorie food, right? And you know that you’re not moving as much as you should be. Do what you know, ask for help from those who know, use google, and just do it!

If you don’t know what to do, here is a weight loss cheat sheet, a 4 week healthy meal plan, and a beginner’s guide to running a 5K. Boom, done.

“Do It For Me”

People with this attitude tend to put all the weight of their goals on others’ shoulders, from their trainer to their nutritionist. If someone isn’t holding their hand through every step, they just can’t get it done and never figure out how to take any responsibility or initiative on their own.

If this sounds like you, ask yourself if you’re letting these experts educate you, or if you’re relying on them to do the work for you. Take the knowledge they have taught you and initiate the changes yourself! If you’re having a tough time with this, talk to your expert about strategies for becoming more independent.

“I Don’t Like Exercise/Healthy Food/Cooking”


OK Mikey. If you think that you don’t like exercise, high quality nutritious foods, or cooking, it’s because you haven’t pushed yourself to find what you DO like. It’s a matter of exploring the options until something sticks.

These first choices you make then expand upon themselves until before you know it, you DO like exercise/healthy food/cooking of some form. “He likes it, he likes it!”

“I Earned This (insert self-sabotaging behavior or food)”

Have you ever had a horrible day in the midst of trying to lose fat, and told yourself you deserved that shake, or those chips, or to skip your workout? I know I have.

This is a common attitude of those who find themselves overweight and unhealthy, and probably one of the reasons you got to that point in the first place – emotional eating. Recognize this and replace your former rewards with new ones that won’t sabotage your health or goals.

“I Don’t Belong In a Gym”

Are you afraid of being laughed at by muscle-heads or skinny people? Are you afraid your overweight friends will make fun of you for not partaking in donuts or cake?

It’s time to let go of your anxieties and focus on what you need to do, since no one else has to live your life but you. If anyone laughs at you (they probably won’t, by the way) that is a reflection of their own insecurities and has NOTHING to do with you.

Read: Why Does My Healthy Lifestyle Offend You?

“It’s Not Working”

It’s inevitable at some point in a fat loss journey that you will plateau or won’t get results as quickly as you want. If you become so frustrated with lack of progress that you give up, you have just gone from a large chance that things really were working to a 100% chance that they won’t.

Forget about aesthetic results. Focus on how you feel RIGHT NOW…do you have more energy? Are you healthier? YES-success. Build on that.

Here is why you shouldn’t make weight loss your primary goal.

“I Quit”

Enough said. Never quit…take a break if you feel you have to, use the break to re-assess what has gone wrong, and start again right away.

“I Don’t Need Help”

Some people have the attitude that they know everything, even though their progress doesn’t reflect this. If you think you don’t need help but you seem to never reach your health and fitness goals, it might be time for an ego check.

Don’t be so proud that you miss out on good advice or information when you come across it. It can be EVERYTHING to listen to those who have been where you’ve been, and how they were successful.

Are you guilty of any of these attitudes? Have you ever encountered these attitudes in others?

  • Gloria

    This is a great “get-you-going” article, especially after reading the ADA now considers obesity a “disease”, (which is another topic for another day). I love these articles. They are helpful and inspiring.

  • Heather

    This is a great post. Thank you guys for all that you do to help people on their journey toward optimal health and fitness. I am 29 years old and have been chubby for as long as I can remember. On my birthday (in May) I told my husband that I am going to lose 50 lbs by the time I’m thirty, which I feel is a very realistic goal. I have started and stopped healthy eating/exercise regimens countless times–not that I ever eat horribly, I am always mindful but I feel that I have to work harder than some to lose weight. I also used to have a panic disorder and generalized anxiety, my hormones were out of whack (adrenal fatigue,etc). I often feel sick after working out. Anyways, I am three weeks into it now, and feel stronger than ever. I do not feel deprived but instead excited about visualizing myself in a body that I feel proud of and reflects who I am on the inside. I weighed 191 three weeks ago and today I am 185.5. I feel that I have a pretty good grasp on the diet part but struggle with exercising. I know myself and I need a routine or else I won’t do it. I used to do Jillian Michael’s thirty day shred, but it go too easy for me. I recently purchased her No More Trouble Zones DVD, which is much more challenging and about 50 minutes long. I have been doing it 4-5 days a week, and then the Thirty Day shred and 25 minutes of a yoga video on the other days. I know that is is important to mix it up and vary workouts, but for now, while I am getting in the groove and developing my good/habits and routines, do you think that I can stick with doing the videos like I have and successfully lose weight? If I don’t have something there to just do, I know I won’t do it. I already am noticing muscle tone and am working muscles that I didn’t know existed. I am working on trying to accept and love my body, rather than hate it, because I got really down on myself for a while and getting dressed was a lengthy, frustrating, cry-fest. I am not giving up this time! Sorry this is so long–I could go on and on asking questions. Thanks for your time!

  • http://www.coachcalorie.com/ Deanna Schober

    I’m glad they help you!

  • http://www.coachcalorie.com/ Deanna Schober

    Check out YouTube for workouts too, there are always new ones to keep you from getting bored!

  • http://www.coachcalorie.com/ Tony Schober

    Glad it hit home, Steph. Hope identifying your mindset problem will help you with your goal!